Practice
She and I or she and me?
She and I booked the room. The organizer sent the details to her and me. The pair has one job in each sentence, and that job tells you which pronouns fit.
Choose she and I for a compound subject, and choose her and me after a verb or preposition.
Read and practice
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Try the written questions
She and I sent the note to her and me. /ʃiː ən aɪ sent ðə noʊt tə hɝː ən miː/
The short answer
Use she and I as the subject of a sentence. Use her and me after a verb or a preposition. Check the complete pair, then test each pronoun on its own if you are unsure.
She and I chose the restaurant, but the server brought the menus to her and me.
Why it works: She and I do the choosing. Her and me receive the menus after the preposition to.
5 more examples
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She and I will meet the client at noon.
The pair will meet the client, so the pair is the subject.
Not this:The client will meet
her and meat noon. What changes: The client performs the action, so her and me are the objects. -
My sister and I prepared the presentation.
The two people prepared the presentation, so the phrase is a subject.
Not this:The manager reviewed the presentation with
my sister and me. What changes: With is a preposition, so the phrase after it uses object forms. -
She and I are available after lunch.
The phrase comes before are and names the people who are available.
Not this:The appointment is for
her and me. What changes: For is a preposition, so it is followed by object pronouns. -
She and I spoke after the workshop.
The pair performed the action spoke.
Not this:The instructor spoke to
her and meafter the workshop. What changes: The instructor performed the action, and to introduces the object phrase. -
She and I have known each other for years.
The pair is the subject before have known.
Not this:Between
her and me, the earlier route is faster. What changes: Between is a preposition and requires object pronouns.
Read the full guide
Find the action first. If the pair performs it, choose subject pronouns: She and I arrived. If someone does something to the pair, choose object pronouns: The host thanked her and me. You can remove the other person for a quick check, but put the whole phrase back before you finish the sentence.
Find who does the action
Start with the action. The people who perform it are the subject. When she and I are the people doing something, use both subject forms before the verb.
She and I checked the schedule.
The pair checked the schedule, so she and I is the subject.
Choose the phrase for two people who will lead the meeting: she and I or her and me?
Use she and I: She and I will lead the meeting.
Find who receives the action
An object receives the action. After verbs such as called, thanked, invited, or emailed, use object forms for the people receiving that action.
The receptionist called her and me.
The receptionist did the calling. Her and me received the action.
Complete the sentence: The guide thanked ___ after the tour.
Use her and me: The guide thanked her and me after the tour.
Look for a preposition
Prepositions are words such as to, for, with, and between. A pronoun after a preposition takes the object form. This rule also applies when the object is a pair of people.
The tickets are for her and me.
For comes directly before the pair, so use her and me.
The secret stayed between her and me.
Between also takes object pronouns.
Use the one-person check
Remove the other person and test the shorter sentence. You would say I will call, not me will call. You would say the office called me, not the office called I. This check works because the pronoun keeps the same job after you add the other person back.
I will call tomorrow. She and I will call tomorrow.
I is correct alone, so it remains I in the subject pair.
Test the object sentence: The office called ___. Which word works alone, I or me?
Use me alone, then use her and me in the full sentence.
Avoid a mixed pair
She and me combines pronouns that belong to different jobs. It is not the standard form for a subject because me is an object form. It is not the standard form for an object because she is a subject form. Match both words to the role of the whole pair.
She and I sent the invitation.
Both pronouns are subject forms because the pair sent the invitation.
Choose the standard phrase after with: with she and me, or with her and me?
Use with her and me because with is a preposition.
Before you go
Remember this
Use she and I when the pair does the action or comes before a linking verb. Use her and me after a verb or a preposition. If you see she and me, find the pair's job and replace it with the matching subject or object forms.
Practice with the written examples
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Why is she and me not standard in careful writing?
She is a subject pronoun, while me is an object pronoun. A pair should use forms that match the same role. Use she and I when the pair performs an action. Use her and me when the pair receives an action or follows a preposition.
She and I will meet the client at noon.
Can I put the other person's name before I or me?
Yes. In standard English, it is common to name the other person first: Sara and I will attend, or the coach spoke to Sara and me. That order is a courtesy convention. Choose I or me because of the phrase's role, not because of the order.
The client will meet her and me at noon.
How does the one-person check work?
Remove the other person and say the shorter sentence. If I works alone before the verb, use I in the full subject phrase. If me works alone after the verb or preposition, use me in the full object phrase. Then add the other person back.
My sister and I prepared the presentation.
Does a linking verb change the pronoun choice?
No. A phrase before a linking verb such as is, are, was, or were is normally the subject. Use she and I in a sentence such as She and I are ready. The verb describes the pair, but the pair is still the subject.
The manager reviewed the presentation with my sister and me.
What pronouns follow between, with, and for?
These words are prepositions, so they take object pronouns. Write between her and me, with her and me, and for her and me. The same rule applies when a name appears with a pronoun, such as between Maria and me.
She and I are available after lunch.